A t 23 years old, Asia Blackwood was the proud stay-at-home mother of three young children in a quaint Connecticut neighborhood.
Day in and day out, she prepared snacks and watched with pride as her toddlers learned to share with each other while her husband worked. Life was picture perfect. She was often exhausted, and felt sad for no reason.
This listlessness and unhappiness made her feel guilty, since she had nothing to complain about. It lessened my depression and gave me more energy. During that time, she saw how unhappy her marriage was and divorced her husband.
She met John not his real namea recovering heroin addict, just weeks after her divorce and began dating him. John introduced her to a much cheaper alternative: She soon lost custody of her children and became homeless for a while, still shocked that her life was now about finding her next fix instead of fixing her kids dinner.
After a very dark year, she decided to make a change, dropped John, and started going to Alcoholics Anonymous.
I was newly sober, clueless and craving love. Blackwood said she began dating a man with nine months sobriety within her first weeks at AA, and later found out he was sleeping with dozens of other women in the same support group, many of whom she had considered friends.
Women trying to recover are Single and sober hookup in orange into the trap of dating in which the goal is not love or mutual support, but a power play in which they are the losers.
Joella Striebel, a behavioral health specialist at Gundersen Health System in Wisconsin, says that women have a different pathway to addiction than men.
To recover, they must believe they have control over their own lives and can make decisions for themselves, rather than admitting powerlessness — which is one of the main tenets of AA.