User Name Remember Me? Ok so recently I have begun 'seeing' a guy from where I used to work, he's 34 and I'm We get along really well, really click, have loads of the same interests, and obviously there is an attraction between us.
While we worked together he was still with his ex girlfriend, but broke up with her the week before I stopped working with him. He got my number on my last day and since then we have been talking. His ex was very abusive, she hit him which a mutual friend of ours has witnessed several times and I've seen her be verbally abusive to him at work multiple times.
He is quite immature for his age, but for me it makes him fun to be around, whilst having more knowledge of the world than me which is interesting! My question is, what would he want with me? I understand why I would like him, he's very attractive to me and we get along well, but what would an 18 year old have to offer him?
We've only ever kissed and he said he's happy to wait for sexual things, and has talked about wanting to be with me in the future so I have no idea whether he's got ulterior motives or something! Please help guys I'm seeing him for our second official date tomorrow: I want some of idea what's going on!
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It screams pedophile to me. I don't even understand how he could relate to you. They are emotionally immature I was 18, too, once and I can't fathom what a 34 year old would want besides sex.
I can't see how there would be a connection. Originally Posted by Kittykat This is beyond creepy. And like the guy above said to your question, what can you offer him?
I think you're not mature enough for a realtionship like that. Go out with people your age. Well the thing is he says he doesn't just want sex, so I'm really confused because honestly myself I understand that is generally all that would be wanted with a man of his age?
Maybe I am just being really stupid, I'm just gutted because we have actually got a lot in common, maybe il just suggest being friends! Most likely he is pursuing you for sexual reasons, but there is the possibility that he also wants to date you with sincerity. Since 18 and 34 year old dating are going on a second date and you two have already kissed, you are already sending signals to him that you two will be getting physical in the near future.
If you have no problem with that, then proceed how you wish.
But if you want to improve the chances of him respecting you, then restrain from getting sexual too soon. Cut back on the kissing, but still flirt with him and enjoy the dates.
Since you said his knowledge of the world is interesting, you sound like you like him a lot and could learn a lot from this relationship. Take is slow and tread carefully.
18 and 34 year old dating must have been something real nasty in a past life - nun-rapist, maybe, mass murderer, or perhaps tax collector - to warrant this kind of drekky karma. We kissed once goodbye, I'm trying to take it slow because I am very aware that a lot of people would be against the age difference, and that maybe I am not making the right choice by seeing him, I'm just very confused because he seems to be very eager to get to know me for me,however I have not dated people older than myself before so I can't be sure I'm not being played here, like you guys say!
When you're 18 you're like putty in his hands. It's also nearly impossible to tell you anything rational. Is your father in your life?
I wasn't going to say you're looking for a father figure in him, I was eluding to the fact that most fathers would strongly forbid a 34 year old guy from having any type of contact with their daughter, or make things very "uncomfortable" for him. Even if I did see my dad, he'd probably not be bothered, he's like that I would be very, very cautious.
No offense, but I'm assuming since you're 18 you've probably just graduated high school right? You can be a mature 18 year old in your own eyes and still not have the maturity that a few years in the real world will give you. It would make me cautious that he's okay with that… to the point of not seeking a relationship with him.
That being said, I have a question to pose to the other people responding in the thread… Where do you draw the line with this? What things do you think make for a mature girl who is able to date someone older and when does an age difference become acceptable and how big should that age difference be?
I'm dating someone older so I'm a bit curious. All times are GMT The time now is 3: The suggestions and advice offered on this web site are opinions only and are not to be used in the place of professional psychological counseling or medical advice.
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Page 1 of 4. Same thing any other woman has to offer. Originally Posted by Kittykat96 My question is, what would he want with me? Originally Posted by Kittykat96 Well the thing is he says he doesn't just want sex, so I'm really confused because honestly 18 and 34 year old dating I understand that is generally all that would be wanted with a man of his age?
S Share Share this post on Digg Del. I don't see my dad haha, I know what you're going to say!
34 YEARS OLD MEN ARE ALWAYS COMPLICATED . 18 year olds are basically children still, but at 20 girls start to become just the right.