7 Steps to Fix Relationship -
Rescue is on the Way!
Jim works long hours and Lisbet doesn’t feel he is there for
her. Lisbet spends all of her time meeting the children’s needs
and Jim feels that she doesn’t have time for his needs? Can
this relationship be saved? Should it be saved? Here’s how to
save a relationship.
First, you must decide whether the relationship is worth
saving. While almost every relationship can be saved with hard
work, both parties must decide that they want to make it work.
Because if a partner has opted out and doesn’t want to opt back
in, there is little that can be done.
Many people stay in a relationship because it is convenient
or remain in a marriage because of the children. But that is
not enough. How to save a relationship starts with a commitment
by both parties that the relationship is worth saving.
Next, you must pinpoint the problem or problems in a
relationship. One of the biggest problems in how to save a
relationship is that people believe the symptoms of the problem
are the problem itself.
For instance, many people think an affair is a problem that
causes break ups. In truth, the affair is a symptom of a deeper
problem. For instance, a lack of true intimacy can lead to a
straying spouse. While most people look at the affair as the
problem, the underlying cause of the affair was the lack of
intimacy in the primary relationship. If you do not deal with
the lack of intimacy, you might be able to keep another affair
from starting through the use of guilt, but another problem
(for instance pornography) could pop up because you haven’t
dealt with the core issue.
When you start to deal with core issues rather than
symptoms, you can save the relationship.
Once you have identified the core problems, you can begin to
share your thoughts. This means both verbalizing your own
feelings and listening to your partner’s concerns. Hold your
partner’s had when you are talking about your problems as a
signal that you want to reconnect even when your emotions are
swirling. When your partner talks about things that hurt you
remember that he or she is not doing it because he or she wants
to hurt you. Rather it is because they want to improve the
relationship.
Once you have detailed the problems in your relationship,
create an action plan to solve them. Then, take concrete steps
on your action plan. If you don’t spend time together like you
used to, plan a date night every week. Take turns coming up
with creative ways to spend an evening together each Wednesday.
If not communicating is the problem, commit to spending 20
minutes before going to bed just talking to one another. And,
then do it.
Finally, you should realize that saving a relationship is an
ongoing process. You are going to take two steps forward only
to take one step back. There is going to be both laughter and
tears going forward. Be quick to apologize and slow to
blame.
Is your relationship worth saving? If so, I’ve described in
this article how to save a relationship.
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